In order to get the true meaning of “striving for oneness”, we need to exam and define each word. Let’s begin with the word: striving - (v). to make great efforts to achieve or obtain something; to struggle or fight vigorously, to exert much effort or energy; to compete eagerly with others for victory. Now let’s define the word: oneness - (n). the fact or state of being unified or whole, though composed of two or more parts; singleness or wholeness; a state or condition of perfect harmony or accord; a strong feeling of closeness or affinity; union.
Striving for oneness should be the ultimate goal of every married couple. The definitions above describe that actions must be taken in order for this to be achieved. We must make an effort in every aspect of our marriage to obtain oneness. With striving, there will come struggles and fights that you will have to endure. Accomplishing oneness will not be easy, however, with God it is possible. God's plan for marriage is that a husband and wife become one.
Since the union of marriage was instituted by God, He is needed in order to sustain it. There are three aspects which are the basics of marriage: 1) a man will leave his parents and promise himself to his wife, 2) the man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each other's welfare and by loving their mate above all others, 3) the two become one flesh in the intimacy and commitment of the sexual union that is reserved for marriage. A strong marriage will include all three of these basic aspects.
Having oneness in marriage does not mean losing your own personality within the personality of the other. Instead, oneness means you caring for your spouse as you would care for yourself . Marriage merges two people in a way that little can affect one without also affecting the other. It's a precious relationship that requires tender self-sacrificing care. You should know and anticipate the needs of your spouse.
If you are currently married, getting married or plan to be married, strive for oneness in that relationship. Let no one or nothing destroy the union and covenant you have made to God. I cannot stress enough how being married and striving for oneness is not easy. There will be many obstacles to overcome. But both the husband and wife must be determined to not give up prematurely. Giving up, separating from one another, or getting a divorce should no be an option.
When you find your relationship being challenged, seek God for guidance, wisdom and strength. He will equip you with the tools needed to overcome whatever you are going through. We must lean not on our own understanding but trust God. He knows the plans He has for you and your spouse. He will never lead you or forsake you, therefore, don't give up on God because He will never give up on you.
My husband and I are living witnesses that God is a restorer, a healer, and a deliverer. He freed us and delivered us out of our mess. He healed all the hurt we caused one another and then restored us so that we can move forward and fulfill the purpose He had ordained for us. I cannot imagine what our lives would be like if God would have not stepped in when we felt like there was no hope for us and wanted to walk out on our marriage.
Reflections
Are you and your spouse striving for oneness? Or are you allowing the spirit of defeat, frustration, and separation to overcome you? Write down the areas in your marriage you want God to help you with. Pray and ask God to help you in each area. Then have faith, believe and declare the victory over those areas until you see change occur. TAKE AUTHORITY OVER YOUR MARRIAGE!
Since the union of marriage was instituted by God, He is needed in order to sustain it. There are three aspects which are the basics of marriage: 1) a man will leave his parents and promise himself to his wife, 2) the man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each other's welfare and by loving their mate above all others, 3) the two become one flesh in the intimacy and commitment of the sexual union that is reserved for marriage. A strong marriage will include all three of these basic aspects.
Having oneness in marriage does not mean losing your own personality within the personality of the other. Instead, oneness means you caring for your spouse as you would care for yourself . Marriage merges two people in a way that little can affect one without also affecting the other. It's a precious relationship that requires tender self-sacrificing care. You should know and anticipate the needs of your spouse.
If you are currently married, getting married or plan to be married, strive for oneness in that relationship. Let no one or nothing destroy the union and covenant you have made to God. I cannot stress enough how being married and striving for oneness is not easy. There will be many obstacles to overcome. But both the husband and wife must be determined to not give up prematurely. Giving up, separating from one another, or getting a divorce should no be an option.
When you find your relationship being challenged, seek God for guidance, wisdom and strength. He will equip you with the tools needed to overcome whatever you are going through. We must lean not on our own understanding but trust God. He knows the plans He has for you and your spouse. He will never lead you or forsake you, therefore, don't give up on God because He will never give up on you.
My husband and I are living witnesses that God is a restorer, a healer, and a deliverer. He freed us and delivered us out of our mess. He healed all the hurt we caused one another and then restored us so that we can move forward and fulfill the purpose He had ordained for us. I cannot imagine what our lives would be like if God would have not stepped in when we felt like there was no hope for us and wanted to walk out on our marriage.
Reflections
Are you and your spouse striving for oneness? Or are you allowing the spirit of defeat, frustration, and separation to overcome you? Write down the areas in your marriage you want God to help you with. Pray and ask God to help you in each area. Then have faith, believe and declare the victory over those areas until you see change occur. TAKE AUTHORITY OVER YOUR MARRIAGE!
Have you reflected on if your marriage is striving for oneness? What are some of the areas you wrote down that you are praying, trusting and believing God to help you in your marriage.
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